I was recently talking to someone about the ‘Wolf of Wall Street’, Jordan Belfort, and how he is currently earning a living teaching people sales techniques, which I found ironic because the real asset, which allowed him to earn such a monstrous income wasn’t his sales ability, or even his skullduggery – but his unshakable self-confidence.
Now, he’s an awful example of a role model – but in any really successful individual there exists a similar-breed of self-confidence that differentiates them from the average joe and allows them to turn latent ambition into tangible success.
This isn’t just the law of cause and effect in action, but the absence of self-pity that keeps so many people from becoming who they can be; or rather, a stronger force at work than self-pity, fear, and doubt.
As a lifelong student of the Universe I’m committed to building the immaterial skills and habits that manifest themselves in the material world; the outer-world is truly a reflection of the inner-world. To understand this and empower your life through this paradigm is a fine and beautiful thing.
Since I’ve shifted the focus of my growth to this narrative on unshakable self-confidence the universe has paid dividends into this investment and I’m writing to share them with whoever wishes to walk this path with me.
I just want to shout from the mountain-tops: “People, we can do anything.”
And I believe it. Look, you can tell yourself anything, but the bottom-line is: the only thing standing between you and your dreams is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself.
Go ahead, settle for less. It’s your life; however, if you wish to realize your true potential, it’s going to require work.
Part of that work – the most important part of that work is feeding your psyche.
Put it on a diet. Check your self-talk. Self-confidence is a state of mind. You have to go to that place mentally before you can accomplish anything of value in the physical world.
If you’d like the recipe for unshakable self-confidence: listen to this audio everyday for the next month. If not, kiss my fuckin’ ass, I won’t lose any sleep over it.
Earl Nightingale, The Strangest Secret – 1950
The Strangest Secret Summary
“1. Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.
2. People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going. It’s that simple. Failures, on the other hand, believe that their lives are shaped by circumstances – by things that happen to them – by exterior forces.
3. The key to success and the key to failure is this – WE BECOME WHAT WE THINK ABOUT.
4. A person who is thinking about a concrete and worthwhile goal is going to reach it, because that’s what he’s thinking about. Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn’t know where he’s going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety, fear, and worry will thereby create a life of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing – he becomes nothing.
5. Our mind can do any kind of job we assign to it, but generally speaking, we use it for little jobs instead of big ones. So decide now. What is it you want? Plant your goal in your mind. It’s the most important decision you’ll ever make in your entire life.
6. Every one of us is the sum total of our own thoughts. We are where we are because that’s exactly where we really want or feel we deserve to be – whether we’ll admit that or not. Each of us must live off the fruit of our thoughts in the future, because what you think today and tomorrow – next month and next year – will mold your life and determine your future. You’re guided by your mind.
7. You see, the very law that gives us success is a double-edged sword. We must control our thinking. The same rule that can lead people to lives of success, wealth, happiness, and all the things they ever dreamed of – that very same law can lead them into the gutter. It’s all in how they use it – for good or for bad. That is The Strangest Secret!
8. The moment you decide on a goal to work toward, you’re immediately a successful person – you are then in that rare group of people who know where they’re going. Out of every hundred people, you belong to the top five. Don’t concern yourself too much with how you are going to achieve your goal – leave that completely to a power greater than yourself. All you have to do is know where you’re going. The answers will come to you of their own accord, and at the right time.”
edit 11/16/15: On the topic of confidence, I’ve written this, which is a must read for anyone looking to understand and posses confidence in themselves.